Monday, May 26, 2008

Becoming a Better Person


Late sunday night, one of my blog readers who is also a spiritual brother of mine asked me if he could give a phone call and share some of the things he was going through lately. Since I was still very awake, I didn't hesitate to say yes right away. I gave my phone number and minutes after we were already starting our counseling session by phone.

Our conversation lasted for about an hour. I asked probing questions for me to understand the context of his situation. He was very clear what he wanted to become but he felt like he didn't know how to start the process. What he was sure and convinced of was that he needed and wanted to become a better person.

I felt the weight of his intention. He was getting tired of his inability to handle difficult situations. He wanted to gain control over the instability of his emotion. He simply wanted to be a "right person" in the eyes of his friends, family and God. But the challenge he was facing was how to start moving towards that direction.

I personally didn't have a comprehensive list to give him so he can start moving towards that direction. But as I reviewed our conversation, I realized that I did give some interesting directions. Below are some of the principles I shared with some additional explanations and personal reflections.

1. For us to a better person, we need to know our worth as a person. If we base our worth by the way people see us and treat us we would always end up in frustration. But if we base our worth by the way God sees us and loves us without condition, it will directly affect our self projection. If we will begin to see how valuable we are in God, we would also begin to based our happiness on God. Thus others misbehaviors would not become a threat to our inner happiness.

2. For us to be a better person, we need to guard our actions. Often times we don't realized that we have wounded people's heart by our careless actions and reactions to untoward situations. A simple gestures of dismay may heap up coals of fire on someone's head. If you will learn to guard your action, you would earn a pleasant reaction and you would save yourself from the hazards  relational disruptions.

3. For us to be a better person, we need to understand our emotions. If we try to control our emotion without understanding first its functions we may end up in confusion. We must understand that we are emotional beings. Emotion serves a dynamic function in our life. It sends signals whether what we are experiencing is good or bad, favorable or unfavorable. There is no such good or bad emotions because emotions are natural reactions. It is how we handle our emotions that determines if it has served its good functions for our emotional and personal growth. The best way to handle our emotion is to surrender it to God in total submission. It is allowing God to fill our emotional love tank so that our hearts will overflow with love joy and thankfulness in whatever circumstances we are in.

4. For us to be a better person, we must be willing to take new directions. Let us not be prisoners of our past failures and successes but let us be always open for new opportunities, adventures and challenges. The task ahead of us may be overwhelming but we are sure that we are on the path of winning. Whether dealing with new people or dealing with old people the new way, taking a road less travelled or taking the same road with less baggages , what matters most is we are wiling to follow the direction God has set for us. God did not require perfection but faithfulness. As long as we are faithful in taking baby steps toward growth and transformation, God will surely bless our direction.

We ended our conversation with great expectation for transformation. In the end I realized that it was not only him who sensed the need to become a better person but I sensed my own need as well. May this same desire be passed on to you as you read this blog.

Sunday, May 25, 2008

Crisis: A Blessing in Disguise

This is the manuscript of my message today in the church. I hope this would help you in your journey with God.

oOo

I’d like to start today, with a cute story about the two frogs;

The Two Frogs

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them 
fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit 
was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as
 dead. The 
two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit 
with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, 
that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took 
heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down 
and died.

The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, 
the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He 
jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the 
other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to 
them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the 
entire time.

We could think of numerous lessons from this story from different perspective but one thing that I think so was astounding was the positive message it sent to those who are experiencing deficiency. It is true that our deficiency could be possibly be our salvation. Our difficulty, crisis and problems could turn to be blessing in disguise as the Lord allows it in our lives.

How would you feel if you will go through the following crisis?

1. You are a young professional who had been desperately looking for a job. You’ve given out more than 30 resumes but you have never been called for an interview.
2. You are a diligent nursing student spending sleepless nights with your summer major subject but your C.I. mercilessly gave you a failing grade.
3. You are a woman who failed to pass your CPA board
 exams after months of intensive studies and reviews.
4. You are a parent who labored so hard to send your eldest son to college but found out he impregnated his girlfriend and thus he needs to stop his schooling.
5. You are a sweet lover who invested so much to his girlfriend but found out that she decided to stay single for life because she wanted to enjoy her gift of singleness.
6. You are a leader (SOL 2 graduate) who has been wanting, praying to start a cell group but could not find one or You are a Pastor who had been training your leaders to start a cell group but  have not seen much results.
We can go on and on with the list of the things that could make us frustrated, exhausted and disappointed in life. We could even defend the validity of our feelings. But what do we do after we’ve gone through crisis in life? Others could be traumatized and paralyzed. Others could be discouraged and others would give up hope.
But let me tell you a story of a man in the Bible who refused to be traumatized by a night of fishing crisis. His name was Peter. His story is found in Luke 5:1-11

Luke 5:1-11

 1One day as Jesus was standing by the Lake of Gennesaret,[a]with the people crowding around him and listening to the word of God, 2he saw at the water's edge two boats, left there by the fishermen, who were washing their nets. 3He got into one of the boats, the one belonging to Simon, and asked him to put out a little from shore. Then he sat down and taught the people from the boat. 
 4When he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, "Put out into deep water, and let down[b] the nets for a catch." 
 5Simon answered, "Master, we've worked hard all night and haven't caught anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets." 
 6When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to break. 7So they signaled their partners in the other boat to come and help them, and they came and filled both boats so full that they began to sink. 
 8When Simon Peter saw this, he fell at Jesus' knees and said, "Go away from me, Lord; I am a sinful man!" 9For he and all his companions were astonished at the catch of fish they had taken, 10and so were James and John, the sons of Zebedee, Simon's partners. 
   Then Jesus said to Simon, "Don't be afraid; from now on you will catch men." 11So they pulled their boats up on shore, left everything and followed him.

How Could a Crisis be a Blessing in disguise?

1. God allows crisis to create opportunity for us to know Him (vs. 1-3)

What was the crisis that Peter encountered? 
He had not caught any on his night of fishing. For a fisherman to catch nothing means no income for the day. For a family man like Peter, that would be a difficult situation. It should be frustrating for Peter and the rest of the fishermen to be back at the water’s edge with nothing.

What could be the scene if Peter had a successful fishing that night? 
Probably Peter could have been somewhere else. He could have been trading his fish or he could have been home remitting his income to his wife. He could have missed out the opportunity to listen to Jesus and experienced a life-changing encounter with Him.

What could we learn from here? 
God allows crisis to come into our lives so that He can create opportunities for us to see our need of Him and thus we will seek Him. This is why we often hear people saying that I feel closer to the Lord when I have problems because that’s when I’m moved to pray and realized that I can’t do it on my own. It’s when we are in the crossroads that we need to hear God’s voice for a clear direction. It’s when we stumble and fall (sometimes literally) that we call on the name of the Lord.

Rick Warren in his book Purpose Driven Life said that the most profound and intimate experience of worship will likely be in your darkest days-when your heart is broken, when you feel abandoned, when you're out of options, when the pain is great-and when you turn to God alone. It is during suffering that we learn to pray our most authentic, heartfelt, honest-to-God prayer.

2. God takes care of our crisis as we radically obey Him (vs. 4-7)

We have read in the story that Jesus had taken care of Peter’s crisis. They were able to catch large number of fish that their nets began to break and they called for assistance from other fishermen. The provision was beyond they could imagine.

What brought that provision? 
I believed it was Peter’s radical obedience to Jesus. What made it radical? Let’s see what Jesus told Peter to do, “Put out into the deep, and let down the net for a catch. This is how Peter responded, “Master we’ve worked hard all night and haven’t caught anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets.” This is such a faith-filled statement from Peter. He could have responded with pessimism.

What could have been Peter’s Negative Responses?
a.) Jesus, I’m not being disrespectful but I think I know better about fishing than you do. This has been my work. As for you are a carpenter who happen to be a preacher now. However, I appreciate your deep concern.
b.) Jesus, I’m not intending to insult you, but don’t you know what hour of the day is it? Can’t you see the sun shining so bright? Don’t you realized how impossible for us to catch fish on daytime. However, I’m thankful for your concern.
c.) Jesus, we’ve worked so hard all night and caught nothing. I’m still in the state of frustration and I am already tired. May be we will do it another time. How about going with us tonight?

I admire Peter for such big faith on Jesus. I salute him for taking the risk of obeying Jesus without delay. I commend him for not allowing frustration to hinder him to obey the Lord. If he had not radically obeyed Jesus, he could have missed Jesus provision, he could have missed out Christ’s solution to his crisis and he could have stayed in the state of frustration.

What is Jesus telling you? 
What is Jesus’ invitation for you today in relation to the crisis you are facing? Did you hear Jesus voice telling you to put out into the deep water and let down the net for a catch. Did you hear Him telling you to trust one more time? Is he telling you to let down the nets of frustration, disappointment and exhaustion and trust him to take care of it?
One Sunday afternoon while we were having our prayer in our mentoring session with my group I sensed a feeling of disappointment in me and probably in my group mates as well with our difficulty to start, sustain and let our cell group grow. Some of us who had been handling cell groups before felt like it’s not working so well. It seems like we could come up with many reasons why it didn’t work and we started to entertain fear and doubt if it still gonna work. While on prayer, God brought to my mind this passage where Peter trusted Jesus and have seen fruits of His trust. I felt Jesus was telling me and to us that let’s put out into the deep and cast down our nets for a catch.

Whatever crisis, you are facing right now, I pray that you won’t let yourself be clouded with frustration and fear to move on and trust God all the more.

3. God uses our crisis to direct us to follow Him (vs. 8-11)

What is the impact of this  “crisis-solution” to the life of Peter?
The “crisis-solution” that Peter had encountered had become the turning point in his life. This was the place and time where he realized that he was a sinner and doesn’t deserve the Lord. But this was also the time when he experienced God’s forgiveness and love, discovered his purpose in life, heard and heeded to Christ’s calling to follow Him to become fisher’s of men.

What was the real blessing that Peter received?
In the real sense, according to one writer, the blessings that Peter received were not the miraculous catch of fish, but the glimpse he caught of who Jesus truly is. May be he thought it would be a blessing to catch some fish. But he found out , when he made the catch, that the Blessing wasn’t the fish. It was Jesus Himself. Peter left the fish, but He followed Jesus.

What is the implication of this truth to our lives?
This is also true with our lives. Most of our encounter with God took place in the desperate moments of our lives. We discovered who God is and what He wants us to do when we come to the point of nothingness and God miraculously provided. We begin to see how God allows critical things to happen in our lives to prepare us for something bigger and better. We take a step of faith to follow Him wherever and forever.

But it all starts by listening to God's voice, His voice of truth. We may hear other voices that would discourage us to move on and would stop us to live with hope and faith. But let us choose to listen to the voice of truth telling us we're on the winning side. Let's us not be consumed by our fear, but together let us put out into the deep with Jesus and let's cast the nets for a catch.

Conclusion

Four years ago, I was in desperate state of my my christian life. I was in the state of confusion and exhaustion not knowing what to do with my life. I know then that I needed to rest from the ministry. So I resigned from my ministry responsibility. I sought counsel and focused on my personal recovery.

During that time, working for ministry again was not an option. I wanted to try something new. But as my relationship with God is getting better, I felt like my spiritual senses were also getting better. It was at that moment that God has put a burden in my heart to serve Him by becoming an instrument for people to find healing in the Lord and enjoy their journey with Him.

For years had passed since that time, I am already a professional counselor now and had enjoyed the experience of being healed and being an instrument of healing for people. I am so thankful to the Lord for speaking to me and for leading me to the right path. I'm blessed more than I could ever imagine. Glory be to Him.

Let's open our ears to the Lord. Let's get our spiritual senses right. But more than that let's follow where He leads and we will reap the rewards of our obedience.

Friday, May 23, 2008

The Bible and Its Worth


Lately, my mind was set on finishing my message for our worship this sunday that's why I could not focus on posting a new entry. I just thought of posting here the outline of the message I gave last tuesday on a youth camp. The title of this message is, "The Bible and its worth". I hope that as you read you will love the Bible more. Enjoy

Introduction:

Ang Celphone at ang Bibliya

Ang cellphone laging hawak at ipinapakita,
Ang Bible laging nakatago at ayaw ipakita.
Ang cellphone binibili kahit libo-libong halaga,
Ang Bible ayaw bilhin, kahit
isang daan ang halaga!

Ang cellphone laging pinapalitan ng case,
Ang Bible hindi man lang mabilhan ng case.
Ang cellphone ay ayaw magasgasan,_
Ang Bible hinahayaang maalikabukan.
Ang cellphone bihirang makaligtaan
kung saan iniwan,
Ang Bible madaling makaligtaan
kung saan naiwan.

Ang cellphone mahirap ipahiram, baka masira,
Ang Bible madaling ipahiram, kahit mawala.
Ang cellphone laging binabasa
kung may bagong message,
Ang Bible hindi binabasa
kaya hindi makita ang message.
Ang cellphone message masarap i-share,
Ang Bible verse nakakalimutang i-share.
Ang cellphone pinapakita ang lifestyle ng tao,
Ang Bible nagpapabago ng lifestyle ng tao.
Ang cellphone mabilis maluma,
Ang Bible hindi naluluma;
Ang cellphone message kung minsan ay late,
Ang Bible laging on time ang message.
Ang cellphone kailangan magload
para mag-message,
Ang Bible laging fully loaded ang message.

Ang cellphone ay mahalagang gamit ng tao,
pero ang Bible ay mas mahalaga
kung gagamitin ng tao.

Is the Bible worth our time?
1. BUILDS up our FAITH in GOD

Romans 10:17-”Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ.”

I Peter 1:23-”For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God.”
2. INSTRUCTS us how to Live life at its BEST

2 Timothy 3:16-17

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

3.BRINGS us to an INTIMACY with GOD

Psalm 119:9

“How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word
4.LEADS us to the RIGHT PATH

Psalm 119:108

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.”
5.EXAMINES our HEART’s CONDITION

Hebrews 4:12-

“For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”

Conclusion:

The Bible is number one
n literary publication and sales
It is number one in numbers of translations.
It is even number one in terms of criticisms.
But is it number one in your life?

Discussion Guide
1. Can you say that the Bible is number one in your life? Why?
2. How are you going to apply the truth you’ve learn about the Bible in your life as a young person?

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

When the Waiting is Over


I was ready to sleep last night when my thoughts were filled with great anticipation of today's schedule. I was excited for the opportunity to speak in a youth camp on "the Bible and its worth" and I was also looking forward to celebrate with our college classmate's wedding day. 
Tonight, as I'm ready to sleep again, I sensed that I'm getting introspective as I reviewed today's memories especially on my classmate's wedding celebration.

Our college days were filled with great memories. We were like brothers and sisters who love to play, laugh and enjoy each other. We were bunch of seekers, dreamers, and visionaries. We love to talk about our hopes for the future, our fears for the unknown and our faith on God. 

Seven years had passed since we had stepped out from the citadel of our Alma Mater and entered into the challenging world of professionals. Within those years, so many things had transpired. A number of our classmates were already working and studying abroad. Quiet a number of them had already started their own family and are now raising their own kids while some are already anticipating for marriage proposals. 

At last I finally realized that I'm not getting any younger. However, my determination to wait is  still getting stronger. I know that our waiting with my girlfriend is not yet over. I believe that God is never too late nor in hurry but He's always on perfect time. My time to wait is a time for continuous shaping, building and fashioning me to be the best man for my best woman.

 What a joy would it be when that time would finally come. What a  wonderful privilege would it be to bring my best woman to the altar. I can now imagine her sweet smile, her beautiful face and her eyes telling me how much she loves me and waited for this day to come. I can now feel the indescribable joy of finally becoming one with her for the rest of my life. I can now hear the laughter, the cheers and the voices of those who will join us in our celebration of love and life. 

I'm so glad to see the joy on my classmate's face and her husband's, as they celebrated with us this blissful moment of their lives. Their joyful and enthusiastic spirit moved me to keep hoping, praying and waiting until the Lord says,..."your time has come, your waiting is officially over!".

 

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Loving the Unlovable

My classmate in college posted a topic for discussion in our friendster group  on how we are dealing with difficult people around us. I pondered for a moment before I started to encode my thoughts. This is my unedited reply to her post:
"Since i'm in the helping profession, plus ministry...i always have to deal with people and the challenge to learn to love, accept and and relate with them with welcoming heart...it's not always easy...naa kuy mga pipz nga dili ganahan pero i have to be careful how to deal with them...hehe....it's always God who gave me the grace to do it kay lisud...after all He did it to me maskin dili ko lovable gi love ko ni God.right?"

Interestingly, this was the same thought that kept coming back to my mind while listening on today's church sermon. The preacher powerfully conveyed to us that there is no way we can make God stop loving us! There's nothing we have done and we can do make God close the door for us to be welcomed into His loving arms. God's love for us is not dependent on our performance. He loves us because that's WHO HE IS.

However, it is sad how we easily passed on judgment to other people when they fail to perform according to our standard. We ought to remember that God didn't put judgment on us but He continued to love us and allowed us to enjoy His grace and mercy no matter how many times we have failed Him.

It is only when we come to realize  how unlovable we are and yet God continues to love us that we are able to love the unlovable people around us. It is only when we understand the depth of God's grace that we will become gracious to others. It is only when we experience God's kindness that we will have the power to be kind to others.

It is truly difficult to love the people we labelled as unlovable. But if we will follow God as our example, then even if loving them might not be comfortable, it will surely be possible.

Saturday, May 17, 2008

The Blessings of Technology


I was on my way home tonight from our music practice when I got into a reflecting mode. I Started to think about the significant things that had transpired today. Thoughts were unfolding as I began to retract and reflect. I smiled as I imagine the faces of those I had in contact with. I could clearly recall the voice, the laughter and the different tone of conversation I had with them.

My heart then began to thank the Lord for this beautiful day when suddenly it dawned on me that this day could have been dull without the amazing blessings of technology. And so I would not want to end this day without counting the ways I felt blessed with how technology had better my day.

(1)Today marked the two-month official relationship I had with Pam. I have accepted the fact the we can not celebrate special moments like this together. It could have been difficult for us, but because of yahoo messenger and skypes we have kept our communication opened. We are grateful for this wonderful technology. It gave us alternative way of still enjoying this occasion even if we're away from each other.
(2)I needed some information for a business plan I got involve with lately. It could have been difficult to get the information right away without the help of my celphone and the availability of our new telephone (part of the package of our DSL connection). Two thumps up for the ingenuity of this package connection. 

(3)Our team member who does our powerpoint, was not able to come to the music practice tonight because she needed to finish a financial report at home. If not through yahoo messengers and e-mails, it could have been difficult to exchange files of songs from the office. I could have end up doing the powerpoint myself but thanks be to the technology for saving me.

(4)Tonight was the first practice that our team mate Zara (the who left for a job in Manila) was not around. When I arrived in the office, I already heard one phone ringing. It was Zara, informing everyone that she misses us a lot. Thanks for the unlimited calls provided by sun cellular network that keeps us connected across distance.

(5) My friend who works abroad and has been my avid chat mate and enthusiastic blog reader sent a usual "hi" in my messenger. We didn't chat much because I was preparing something for our music practice. He asked me to write a new post for my blog. His request pushed me to be in a reflective mood tonight. Interesting how a simple "hi" in my messenger had moved me to begin to appreciate my day this way.

Enjoy the blessings of technology everyday 
But be careful not to make it the center of your day. 
Remember that God made this as a creative way 
So that we can bless others even if they are far away!


Friday, May 16, 2008

A Letter from Miss Desperately Confused

Hi everyone, one of the things I love to do during the week is to co-host with Pastor Love in his  Young Lives program at DXFE . Yesterday, we received a letter from one of our listeners. The sender described herself helpless in her desperately confusing  situation. 

This once again had shown us how our world is in desperate need of people who are willing to listen and journey with them in the desperate moments of their lives. 

Below is a copy of her letter.

oOo

Dear Pastor Love,

Thank God for you program that encourages a lot of people especially the young people like me.

I am writing because I need your advice about my situation.Ganito kase yon. 

May boyfriend ako na nagwork sa ibang bansa. During his visit nagawa namin ang hindi dapat.

.Nong naka alis na sya I discovered na nagdadalang tao ako. Nong nalaman nga mga magulang ko 

galit na galit sila sa akin. At feeling ko nga wala silang paki sa akin.NOw, It so happened that

i'm working in a company that uphold a high standard of values and my pregnancy without a husband

could be a ground of my termination from my job. Ayaw ko po talagang matanggal sa trabaho ko. 

Because of this nag agree kami ng boyfriend that they will 

produce Merriage Certificate by getting married in another place and since nandoon sya sa labas

at next year pa uuwi, we plan to ask someone to stand on his hehalf (marriage by proxy).

Hindi ito alam ng both parents namin.

I'm asking a friend to facilitate this plan on my behalf. Medyo hindi pabor ang friend ko dahil mali daw

Pastor Love heto ang mga questions,Tama ba itong gagawin ko? IS THERE SUCH MARRIAGE BY PROXY? 

WHAT WOULD BE THE POSSIBLE CONSEQUENCE OF THIS ACT? Ayaw kong matanggal sa aking trabaho.

PLEASE ADVICE ME.


sincerely,

MISS DESPERATELY CONFUSED.   

I hope by reading and reflecting through this letter, your eyes will be open so you would see the desperate need of people around you. And I pray that your heart will also be open to welcome others to help you in your own desperate moments.

Feel free to share your views about her problem. God bless us all always!