Do you know your love language? Do you know the love language of the people you love? Yesterday, I had a chance to talk about this topic with the youth of CCF davao. The five love languages is a book written by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Below is the content of my presentation.
I. Introduction
a. About love
Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships.”
Inside every person is an `emotional tank' waiting to be filled with love. When a person really feels loved, he will develop normally but when the love tank is empty, the person will misbehave.
b. The Commandment to love
Jesus Christ wanted love to be the distinguishing characteristic of his followers
John 13:34-35-“I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
c. Discover your love language
LOVE LANGUAGE QUIZ
Please rank in order the five statements according to how you feel loved the most (1 is the highest and 5 is the lowest
____I feel especially loved when people express how grateful they are for me, for the simple, everyday things I do.
____I feel especially loved when a person gives me undivided attention and spends time alone with me.
____I feel especially loved by someone who brings me gifts and other tangible expressions of love.
____I feel especially loved when someone pitches in to help me, perhaps by running errands (photocopy, paying bills) or taking part on my household chores (or finishing my projects).
____ I feel especially loved when a person expresses feeling for me through physical contact.
II. Love Language Descriptions
The sequence of description is the same with the sequence of items in the quiz. Therefore if you have marked item number one as your rank 1 then you will have description 1 (a) as your primary love language. The one you rank no 2 is your secondary.
a. Words of affirmation
You have chosen words of affirmation as your primary love language. You feel loved when another person tells you that he or she values you as a person and appreciates your special way with the most ordinary tasks.
What are the kinds of words we can use to affirm them?
Warm-hearted
Optimistic
Real
Diverse
Specific
b. Quality Time
You have chosen quality time as your primary love language. You feel closest to another person when you receive focused attention.
How can we give quality time to them?
Totally focus attention
Involved in deep conversation
Move away from destruction
Engage in enjoyable activity
c. Receiving Gifts
You have chosen receiving gifts as your primary love language. Tangible expressions of love assure you that the other person is not only thinking of you, but that he or she cares enough to show it.
How significance gift is?
Gives Extra Worth
Imprints Memories
Fosters Closeness (Intimacy)
Touches Hearts
Symbolizes love
d. Acts of Service
You have chosen Acts of Service as your primary love language. You feel most loved when someone helps you carry out your responsibilities.
What kind of services can we give?
Accommodating
Caring
Teaching
Supporting
e. Physical Touch
You have chosen Physical Touch as your primary love language. You feel most loved when you literally make contact with another person. You enjoy being embraced and feeling another’s touch.
What are the forms of appropriate Physical Touch?
Tap in the back for comfort
Open arms for security
Unclenched fist for welcoming
Cool handshakes for celebration
Hugs and Kisses for Greetings
III. The Love Language of God
a. God Affirms us as the reflection of His image
Genesis 1:26
Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, [b] and over all the creatures that move along the ground.
b. God Spends Time watching over us
Hebrews 13:5b
"Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
c. God gave His Son as a gift for us
John 3:16
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
d. God sent Jesus to serve us
Mark 10: 45
“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."
e. God welcomes us in His loving Arms
Isaiah 40:11
He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.
IV. Concluding Suggestions
a. Speak your love language
b. Learn to speak the love language of others
c. Experience the love of God everyday
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